RIP Jesse Helms

This nation lost a dedicated lifelong public servant today as Sen. Jesse Helms passed away. Now, I agreed with little that came out this arch conservative's mouth. He opposed most of the things that I stand for and stood for many things that I am against. His anti[everything rhetoric was horrid and hurtful to millions. BUT he was doing the job to which he was elected to the best his abilities based on his beliefs and such. I have seen several posts today from GLBT sources gleefully reporting his death with relish. Such gleeful reaction to the passing of a former US Senator is horribly rude and immature. It also gives some degree of credibility of the attitudes held by Sen. Helms and his cronies. It is also terribly insensitive. The man left a loving family and scores of friends and colleagues who are grieving his passing. If the roles were reversed and the conservatives gleefully reported the death of a prominent GLBT activist, the community would be up in arms. Are we so damaged that we can justify being so hateful and immature? I extend to the people of North Carolina, to Sen. Helms' family and friends, and the US Senate prayers of comfort and peace during this difficult time. To those who want to revel and rejoice in his passing -- grow up!

Independence Day Thoughts

As I sit here this morning on the 232nd birthday of Independence Day, I have very mixed feelings about how much to celebrate. It is true that many have given their lives (physically, emotionally, financially, etc) for the life and liberty that we enjoy and that too many take for granted. Yet, as I ponder words like "liberty"', "freedom", and "independence", I wonder just how they apply to many of us. We are not free from our dependence on foreign oil. Many of us are economically trapped by rising prices, lower wages, fewer jobs, rising debt, and the like. Many of us are prohibited by law or by simple discrimination from freely expressing our love for the person whom we have committed ourselves too and from enjoying the same rights and privileges of our heterosexual counterparts. As I watch the news, it seems that our government often has us in a stranglehold -- oh yes, we the people elected these folks to represent us, but do they? Or do they represent the special interests and monied lobbying groups who can fuel their re-election campaign with much needed money? It is impossible for an average Joe to get nominated for or elected to the office of the President, although there are some highly capable and qualified people who don't have the name recognition or huge net worth that it now takes to get into nearly any office. Mind you, I am not proposing that we scrap the US or our way of life. What I am suggesting is that as you eat the picnic dinners, play the games, watch the fireworks and all that you not take liberty for granted. It comes with a price -- that price is learning to work and live side by side with people who, in many ways, are different from you -- different ethnicities, different religions (Contrary to the beliefs and preaching of some, we are NOT a Christian nation), different orientations or family structures, different economic levels, different educational backgrounds, different political opinions, and more. Even with all those differences (and those I've missed), we are Americans. Sometimes we work to change others, sometimes we have to work to change ourselves, sometimes we have to agree to disagree, but still we are all Americans bound together by principles and a legacy that transcend all that "stuff" that separates us from one another. Pause today to remember not only the flag waving and bumper sticker kinds of patriotism, but the deeper historically ingrained patriotism that allows us to love this country while at the same time recognizing that we are not perfect and that we do not have all the answers. Enjoy this day of celebration, but also remember to work to preserve and strengthen the fabric of these United States by being informed and involved and by being willing to listen to other views and to speak out against injustice. Freedom is hard work -- be a part of it or risk losing it. And that's the way I see it today. Happy Birthday, United States -- you are a grand old gal!

Hope on the Horizon - Part Two

Well, I got a call a few minutes ago to let me know that my background check came back clean. That means two things: 1) I am not indebted to my potential employer for bad checks or shoplifting, and 2) I start my training on Monday afternoon. So, life goes on -- of course I will be making about half the amount on this job that I was on the last assignment. And it could be hours anytime of the day or night -- ah, twenty-four hour retailing. But it will give my life some much needed structure. I guess if there's anything I want to do or such, I'd better get it in between now and the weekend. Let the adventure begin!!

Hope on the Horizon

Well, I had a job interview today -- if one could call that an interview. It's not much -- a service desk clerk at a local superstore (similar to Wal-you know who, only local and nicer), but it's a start. Assuming I pass the background check (and Ben will attest that there is nothing wrong with my "background" LOL) I should start on Monday. It is only part time, but that can run as high as 40 hours. And since it is part time, I can continue to collect unemployment benefits (reduced of course in accordance with income) through the remainder of my benefit period. HOORAY! So stay tuned, faithful readers, for the outcome of today's visit.

The Gnome Unmasked

Well, the keys have reappeared and the identity of the gnome is now known. It seems that Ben borrowed my keys to get something from the car last night and then left them in his pants pocket. Now, why would I check his pockets for my keys? Hmmmm. Well, anyway maybe it was in God's plan to give me a day off today. So all is well and we were out for a while this afternoon. Now it's sit and veg the rest of the day. Hope your weekend was as "interesting" as ours. Love ya!

A Frantic Morning

The gnomes are at it again in Howell. Ben left for church this morning, and as I was getting ready to go, I began looking for my keys -- and you guessed it -- I am still looking. I had to call my Administrative Assistant and my pianist and have them lead the worship service -- it was time for a good old fashioned hymn sing anyway I guess. I had the keys when we got home yesterday afternoon and I think I had them when we got back from the balloonfest last night. SO -- if those presumptions are true, either one or more of the animals hid the keys somewhere or the gnomes are being particularly playful. This afternoon we will go back to the balloonfest to see if anyone turned in keys, and with Ben's help we will tear the apartment apart one more time. Stay tuned for details.

A Busy but Fun Day

Well, it's been a busy day and I'm pooped, but it was all worth it. It actually started last night when we literally walked across the street for the Michigan Balloonfest, an annual event with hot air balloons, carnival rides, vendors, FOOD, and tons of people -- all sizes and shapes. It was great to watch the balloons lift off and float freely over the city. This morning we headed to Lansing for Michigan Pride. We were a few minutes late for the parade kickoff, but we joined the tail end for the walk to the state capitol. Then we witnessed the mass commitment ceremony with several dozen couples publicly committing to one another on the capitol steps (Too bad the state won't recognize the relationships). From there Ben, the dog, and I headed back to the park for the Pride Festival. There were thousands of folks, lots of vendors, food, beer, and blaringly loud annoying music (Why must it be played at earsplitting levels?). The weather cooperated for us and we all came home tired but satisfied. We walked over to the Balloonfest for tonight's launch which appears to have been cancelled due to winds and threatening weather. Now we are just sitting kicking back and getting ready for the big day tomorrow --each of us off to church in separate directions. BUT the good news is that there is NOTHING we HAVE to do after church. We will probably walk back and see what the balloon people are doing, but I expect that will be about it. Of course with us, one never knows.

Now I'm Angry

Well, I reported on "bargain" gas prices last night. They didn't last long. Today I went out and as I headed east through town, gas prices were 4.08 and 4.09 (we live in a high price area) and then I found one at 4.25. Well, I went and traded cars with Ben to try to get him some gas before the price jumped. Well -- you guessed it -- by the time I headed back through town (a matter of less than 30 minutes) the prices had jumped and they were all 4.23, 24, 25, and even 4.30. It is nothing short of a stickup to see prices jump 15 cents a gallon at five separate stations in thirty minutes. I'm sure glad I was able to get me some gas last night at 3.98. Someone needs to do something -- not sure who or what, but if it doesn't stop soon, our economy and lives are going right down the toilet. Ah well, maybe the next President will have the answer -- this one sure hasn't found it.

An Anniversary

Tomorrow marks the 38th annivesary of the first Gay Pride celebration (Christopher Street Parade) in New York City as they marked the first anniversary of the Stonewall Riot -- the birth of the modern GLBT movement. Here in 2008, things are still difficult for GLBT folks -- we can't get married, gay teens get bullied or worse, we can often lose jobs, family ties, or other vital relationships if we come out or are found out. But if we think we have it bad, go back and read the histories of the gay movement. The people in this picture were taking a really big risk. Many of them are now gone, but the steps that they took that day some 38 years ago began a march for the GLBT community that has continued to this day and will continue until we are included as full, worthwhile members of society with the same rights and recognitions enjoyed by our straight neighbors. I look to the day (probably after I am long gone) when Gay Pride celebrations will not need to have a political or struggle aspect, but will simply be times to gather to remember how far we've come. Ben and I will be spending the day tomorrow at Michigan Pride in the state capital of Lansing. We plan to walk in the parade, attend the rally, and spend the afternoon among "our own". Take a moment to pause and remember with gratitude the folks who have gone before, paving the way for us to pick up the torch. Then find a way to stand up and speak up and be a part of the movement to set the stage for the next generation of GLBT folks.

Bargain (?) Gas

Imagine my surprise and joy when I found gas for less than 4 bucks a gallon tonight. It was 3.98, which by today's standards is a bargain. Needless to say I topped off the tank. Maybe there is a slight break in prices for the moment. The need remains to conserve and to find other means of energy. All in time (perhaps not my life time). Hope you are getting some relief too.

Funerial Funnies

We recently began subscribing to the local paper because we found a deal that was really to good to pass up. I look at the headlines, and then I move on not to the comics, but something funnier--the obituaries. I am not one who usually pokes fun at the grief or suffering of others, but some of the things that people put in the obits is just too funny or weird to pass up. The funniest I have seen in ages says (names changed of course): George left his wife Mary to go be with his sister-in-law Jean. This is but one of the creative ways that people say "He died." My feeling is that if your name appears in the Obituaries, it is to be assumed that you are dead --right? There are phrases like "he passed into glory", "she was called home to be with Jesus", "He was translated to the church triumphant" (I'm not one hundred percent sure what that one even means), "Departed this life for another", and more. Not only do they get creative in describing death, but some of the pictures are a riot. Some guy dies at age 85 and the family submits a picture from 50 years ago -- what's that about? Either the picture is way out of date, or the guy found the fountain of youth.

Today's obit winner: "Although Bob and his family lived in Ohio, his hear never left Michigan, especially his cottage up north......" My first thought was, "If he was in Ohio, and his heart was in Michigan, is it any wonder he died?" Perhaps my humor is morbid, but it does give me some chuckles at the start of the day.

My advice is this: Write your own obituary being careful to read and re-read it keeping in mind that although YOU know what you mean, others may interpret or infer something quite different. If you are going to put in a picture, make it a fairly current one -- and for God's sake, take off the hat.

Sorry if this kind of post offends anyone's sensibilities. That is not my intent. To those who have recently lost loved ones, you are in my prayers. I hope and pray that you are still able to see the humor in this post. Watch for other "winners" coming soon.

Happy Summer, Everyone

I just stopped in this morning to wish you all a great summer on this, the first day of summer -- at least in this part of the world. I hope it is a time of fun, rest, great vacations, and renewal. Enjoy it!

And the World Hasn't Ended

Well, folks, I can only imagine the surprise and likely disappointment in the camps of the doom predicting right wing religious folks. For more than 48 hours, GLBT folks have been getting married in California and the state hasn't fallen into the ocean yet. I also haven't heard of an increase in the number of traditional marriages collapsing in the path of same sex couples heading to the county clerk's office. God hasn't sent floods, flames (other than some of the couples getting married), earthquakes, or other forms of Divine punishment. Is it possible that, unlike the religious right, God is smiling on and blessing the events rather than sitting on the Holy Throne plotting some evil response? Can you believe it -- a God who loves, blesses, and affirms the joining of people who are in love? Ah well, I knew all along that such a God exists and reigns. Now if we can get the religious right to get acquainted with this God instead of the God they know who sits at the ready to squash anyone or anything that doesn't fit the dogma set forth by the rabid religious right. Congratulations and thank you to the many newlyweds who have stood bravely in the face of criticism and threats. Hang in there and enjoy the blessing of wedded bliss. And don't worry -- California isn't falling in the ocean this week.

When Did McCain Visit Utah?

I saw an online headline "Utah announces 'major dinosaur fossil discovery". Imagine my disappointment when the article was not about Sen. McCain making an appearance in Utah. Enough said!

Last One out of Michigan, Turn out the Lights

It's time for Michigan to wake up or give up. There are all kinds of things going on in this state that are literally driving people to move to other areas. Of course, there is the same sex marriage issue. While California and Massachusetts are allowing same sex marriages and New York has been instructed by the Governor to recognize the unions, Michigan holds fast to the horrific constitutional ban on same sex marriage (which actually gives a very narrow and bigoted definition of marriage). Legalized discrimination is not the way to keep people in a state that is facing other major issues as well. Not only are we one of the most publicly bigoted states in the country, but we also hold the number one slot in unemployment. So Ben and I find ourselves in a state where we are leagally banned from formalizing our relationship and where neither of us is able to find employment with income and benefits that can keep up with the record inflation. Hmm, sounds like a commercial for the Chamber of Commerce -- Come to Michigan where you can live in poverty and where you will be discriminated against. On top of that, our votes only count for half (if we're lucky). And then our largest city (Detroit) is governed by crooks, idiots, and wimps. The antics of Mayor Kilpatrick and the wishy washy actions of the city council are an embarrassment to the entire state. It would be so refreshing to have our state make the news for something GOOD for a change. And the big wigs in the state can't figure out why people are leaving the state! DUH! Wake up. Our plan is to be out of this cesspool of a state within the next year or two. Anyone have suggestions as to potential relocation sites? Employment, inclusion, weather, and such will all be factors in determining our eventual location. Come on, Michigan, wake up before your entire structure implodes.

I Need Your Help

Hi readers. This is an unusual post, but this is the only place I know of to seek what I need at this moment. I need to find one or more people who have experience as the partner of a person who has had a penis piercing. I need someone to chat with about this subject because Ben now has an adornment in that area. Suffice it to say, I have some concerns and hangups, but I know how ever it goes I will be fine and we will adapt to this change. If you -- or someone you know -- has some experience (not as the pierced one, but as his partner), I'd sure appreciate a comment or an email so that we can chat and I can get the assurances that my old fashioned mind is seeking. Thanks in advance for your help.

Another Grammar Mess

Well, here I go again. I often find grammar or language useages that drive me nuts. The most recent was on the morning news. The weatherman was reporting the forecast for "Your Fathers Day." The traffic reporter was talking about an accident blocking "Your left lane." When did I take ownership of holidays, weekends, roadways, and more? What about a clear forecast for Fathers Day? a blockage of THE left lane? It's really not a huge deal, but it is annoying to me because it is a lazy, bad habit and a miserable misuse of the English language. These are supposed to be professional people, and yet they seem to have trouble mastering the English language. Come on, newscasters, weathermen, and others--have some respect for yourself and for the primary language of this country. Learn to speak it correctly. And that's the way I see it today. Hug someone.

VACATION - PART THREE

Following all of the stops I talked about in the previous posts, we arrived in Dubuque for the celebration of Ben's parents' 50th anniversary. Here's Mom, Dad, Ben, and his siblings at the party. Ben got both looks and brains. The rest of them are a wonderful bunch and I fit right in. There is another picture of the family with their spouses/partners and I am right there in it with the rest. Hooray.
On Monday, we went to the Mississippi River Museum. Here's a picture of Ben checking out a hut on the property. Here is one of the several stained glass windows at St. Lukes UMC in Dubuque. This is the ONE that is NOT Tiffany. What an awesome display of art and faith.
After seeing the Cavalier (found in Ben's parents' living room) I know where he gets his taste in tacky art. This is perhaps the ugliest thing I've seen in a very long time.

Here's a shot of the Lock and Dam on the Mississippi at Dubuque. It is taken from atop Eagle Point (no steps here -- we drove up)Here's Ben at Pikes Peak. No, it's not the one in Colorado, although it is named for the same guy. Ben has a weird sense of humor -- Paris in Michigan, Pikes Peak in Iowa. Ah well, that's one the things I love about him.These two pictures are a bit odd. The first is a beer can permanently implanted in the side of a tree. At least in Michigan, we return them for the deposit.This one looks pretty normal but in reality the table is about twenty feet down the side of the bluff at Eagle Point. Throwing it over the rail to where it became litter must have been some idiot's idea of fun.There's more photos and memories from this trip, but I won't drive you all nuts with all of them. As you can see from what I have posted, we had a good time and saw a lot of suff. Now we are home and the trials and troubles of life picked right up where we left them a week ago. Ah well, that's life. And that's a wrap. Hug someone you love.

VACATION - DAY TWO

Day two started by picking up my best friend, Tim, and heading to Galena, IL -- the home of US President US Grant. We didn't tour his home since we were there last year, but we did have to stop to visit Mrs. Grant (pictured below). If she looks vaguely familiar think 'Pancakes'. She is affectionately known to many of us as "Mrs. Butterworth." It is a classic example of tacky art. Either that or Grant was really drunk when he married her. Our wandering route took us through Benton, Wisc. so of course we had to get a picture of Ben with the sign. I was teasing him that his "alter ego" must be "Hazel Green".
Then we headed for Platteville, WI where we visited the Big M (the largest letter M in the world) and -- you guessed it-- more stairs (268 steps up to the top.). It was a great view of three states, but it was a lot of stairs. And it was windy as heck up there.


From there we headed on to our destination of Dubuque to visit with the family. We hurried out to Dubuque's Arboretum to see if the Iris were still in bloom. They were pretty beat up from all the storms, but we saw some incredible stuff.

And I saved the most incredible sight for last!!!

VACATION - DAY ONE

The first day of our trip took us from Michigan through the corner of Indiana and on to Freeport, IL. Aside from the numerous potty stops, we stopped at Starved Rock State Park for our first major set of steps of the trip. We walked the steps down from the lodge and back up the other side to the rock. The views were incredible and almost worth the cardio workout of so many stairs.
After doing the stairs again to get back to the car, we stopped to look at the wonderful wood carvings. It's amazing what they can do with a tree isn't it?
From Starved Rock, we headed up to Dixon, IL where Ben lived for a few years in a previous life. It was also home to a teenage Ronald Reagan (a real looker in the day). Being a freak for Presidential sites and the like, I had to stop and check this place out. We visited the gift shop (after all shopping is part of the gay agenda) and wandered around outside the rather unassuming house (Who knew back in those days that this hot lifeguard would grow up to be an actor and president?

From there, we headed to Castle Rock that overlooks the Rock River -- when I say "overlooks" you can interpret that to mean more steps!!! Again, the views were great and again I was pooped when we got back to the car.

It was a wonderful day, but by the time we got to Freeport, the dinner and company of good friends was a welcome treat. So was the good night's sleep in the motel. Had to rest up for the next day.

We're BAAACCCKK

Hi everyone. The trip to Iowa is over and we are home. You can look at Ben's blog for immediate picture. I will post some tomorrow but tonight I am just kind of vegging out. It was a long and tiring (though wonderful) week and a long journey home today. And then once we got home, we had to get some help to restore the wireless network that gives me Internet access. So -- once I get the laundry in and some paperwork done in the morning, I will post a few more pictures. It's great to be home -- missed you all. Hug someone.

A Truly Revolting Thought

I've heard that politics make strange bedfellows, but this is too scary to even think about. My eyeballs hurt just looking at it. Enjoy

What's With the Democrats?

Well, the Democratic Rules Committee met this weekend to determine what to do about the two naughty states -- Florida and Michigan. In their effort to resolve the problem of these naughty states who moved their primary dates in violation of party rules, they (in my humble opinion) have made matters worse. It seems that they are generously seating the delegates with one-half vote each AND awarding some percentage of the Michigan delegates to Barack Obama (who was not on the ballot as part of the party boycott). So -- what's wrong with all of that?
First, why does MY vote only count for half of what votes in the other 48 states are worth? I heard someone yesterday say that she was going to send a contribution check to the national democratic party -- actually she was going to tear the check in half and send half a check. If I recall my high school days, the US Constitution at the time of its signing counted African Americans as 3/5 of a person. That was changed along the way, but today the Democrats are counting Michigan and Florida voters as only 1/2 person! A giant step backward. On top of that, these wise folks on the rules committee are usurping the will of the voters in Michigan by (in spite of the actual votes) giving some of those delegates to Mr. Obama. At this point I really don't care who the nominee is -- I preferred John Edwards who withdrew some time back.

The Party claims that they have to punish the states whose primary dates violated the rules. They are partly right -- I HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH CHANGING THE DATE. Why is my vote being discounted? Let's think about the super delegates! Let's strip the super delegates from Michigan and Florida of THEIR votes instead. These are the politicians and players of the Democratic party who were invovled in changing the dates. And then, let's look at the possibility of a National Primary Day -- that way no state gets to "go first" or become more important in the decision than anyone else.

Whatever the outcome of this election, it will be tainted by this debacle. Whatever happens, we need some kind of election reform and we need it ASAP. We look at elections in some of the third world countries and send election observers to make sure that all is done above board. Soon, they will be sending people here trying to keep our elections honest and orderly. Come on, folks, wake up! There is no good or easy answer, but we need to take a long hard look at our processes. Who is electing the president -- the parties or the people?

Another Number One For Michigan?

Well, after two trips to the Detroit area in the past two days, I have come to the conclusion that Michigan stands a real good chance of being number one in the number of stupid, rude, and inconsiderate drivers. On I696 (the major east-west highway, there is a spot where there is major construction going on == that means lane closures. Yesterday it went from four lanes to two; today it went from four to one -- this one was at the point of a major on ramp, so effectively it went from five to one. Now, we saw the usual number of "important" people who felt it necessary and their RIGHT to zoom on through the left lane until the absolute last minute and then to cut in front of the rest of us who wisely began moving right when we saw the first signs of looming lane closures. Those ego-maniacs who think that common sense applies to everyone but them piss me off, but it gets worse. There were some who had moved to the right lane, and then deciding that that was taking too long, moved back over one or two lanes to zoom up right along with the other arrogant idiots. All that these two behaviors tend to do is make the merging process much more difficult and dangerous. The highway construction folks give anywhere from 1 to 3 miles forewarning of lane closures for a reason! If everyone would start moving in the appropriate direction, things would slow down, but it would be a lot less stressful and not as slow a process as is caused by ego-centric idiots who think that they are somehow too good to sit in a traffic jam with the rest of us. Come on folks -- let's learn to be responsible drivers and pay attention to the signs.

Sex and the City??

Well, the "big day" is here -- the nationwide release of the "long awaited" Sex and the City. My response? Who cares? It may surprise people to hear this, but during the entire time that Sex and the City was on TV, I NEVER watched it. So, this movie is no big deal. As I was sitting here this morning, I was watching Matt Lauer and Meridith Viera on the "Sex and the City" (I mean Today) Show. Every day this week they have done a segment on this movie. Is the movie so great or is it so crappy that it is in need of intense publicity and validation? I don't know nor will I be likely to find out firsthand. There is no way that I will be at the theater any time soon for a movie about the sex lives of four women. Let's work on "Sex and the Gay Ghetto". I would probably go see that one. How about a "Queer as Folk" movie? I bet that wouldn't rate a week on "Today" (although Matt may like that idea LOL).

The Family Album

It's a beautiful day here in good old Michigan, and these pictures show how our animals are spending it -- laying around like bums. Claudia (pictured here) is our non-existent cat. The management thinks we have ONE dog and ONE cat, so Claudia is the "Shadow Cat." She's also the only one who isn't on some kind of medicine. It took well over a year for her to start to allow me near her, but we've made a lot of progress.
And here we have Amber. She thinks that her place is in your lap or right up against anyone who is sleeping. Ben inherited her when he got me -- he really loves me for my poodle LOL. Except for annual shots, regular trips to the groomer, and her nightly treats, she's really no bother except that she loves to be underfoot.
And then there's Madeline -- she's the one who get impacted and requires the vet to clean her out -- about every year or so. She's the one on medication twice a day to reduce that likelihood. She really is sweet, but not the brightest bulb in the box. These are the "kids" in our lives. They are a fair bit of work as any pet owner will attest, but they are a great source of enjoyment and companionship. Sometimes I'd like to change places with them for a day or two. I could lay around, let someone else feed and care for me, and not have a care in the world. It would be incredible to be able to read their minds sometimes -- did you ever wonder what they think? For better or worse, the dog loves us, the cats allow us to live here, and we love them all.

And I Thought I'd Heard It All

Just when I thought I had heard everything, along comes Al the Octopus to surprise and disgust me. For those NOT familiar with the Detroit tradition of throwing boiled octopuses (the preferred plural of octopus) onto the ice during the Red Wings playoff games, it seems that in the 1952 Stanley Cup playoffs, a local fishmonger threw a boiled octopus onto the ice as a good luck omen. At that time, it took eight games to claim the Cup and the eight legs represented the eight games. The practice, even though illegal, has caught on and is currently all over the news as ardent fans (obviously not animal rights activists) pay up to double the normal price for octopuses so that they can participate in this sick, illegal, immoral tradition -- all in the name of team support. People are finding ways to smuggle these creatures into the arena, and there are websites that give instructions on how to prepare them and how to correctly throw them for maximum success. I am personally offended and sickened by this whole thing. I am not a huge octopus lover -- I think they are kind of icky -- but they are living creatures, and it is just cruel and STUPID to act like idiots at their expense. As I read somewhere in checking up on this, someone said, "What's next? Dead cats or dogs?". Come on, people, grow up. I wish the Red Wings well in their quest for the Cup, but I think that anyone caught flinging an octopus should be locked up!

A Commercial that I Hope Catches On

And speaking of Engineering

Since I am on an engineering tirade, let's talk about my car issue. Once we bought my Honda Civic and the GPS unit for the computer, we went through a number of power inverters that plug into the 12 volt power plug in the car. They would work for a while, but when we got into stop and go, they overheated and shut down causing the computer to go to battery and soon shut down. After fighting with BestBuy over Inverter models, we went to Honda to see what might be wrong with the car. It seems that the wise engineers at Honda have created a power outlet that is slightly off standard size. This means that some plug in items work, others don't. The last person I spoke to at the local Honda dealer admitted, for example, that some of the cell phone chargers blow fuses -- consistently. SO, we ended up having to have an inverter hardwired directly to the battery in order to safely use the computer and GPS in the car. My question is this: If Honda is aware of this engineering issue (off sized recepticle), wouldnt it make sense to FIX the problem? I mean, they even tell me that the plug is NOT a cigarette lighter, simply a power outlet. What good is a power outlet that doesn't provide consistent usable power? Ah well, I imagine that if we look at all the stuff in our lives, we could replicate this post over and over. It's just wrong!

Planned Replacements

Well, it finally happened. We have a Toshiba Laptop from which comes the majority of my posts, emails, and other computer stuff. Over a year ago, the computer end of the power supply cord became damaged from twisting and bending -- bare wire was exposed, power supply was inconsistent, and it was frustrating as heck. A new power supply cost more than we wanted to spend right at that moment, so we got out the electrical tape and did our best to patch it up. It looked like hell, but it did work pretty well -- up until this week! Finally, after recurring loss of power for the few days we ordered a new power supply last night. In doing some research, we discovered that we have become the next member of the "replace the Toshiba power supply club." It seems that the way this unit is engineered gives it a life expectancy of one to two years. Instead of having a solid inflexible last inch or two of cord, it is flexible, and the normal movement of the computer over time breaks the wires inside the cord. I really like the computer and the flexibility of the laptop, but this design flaw would put Toshiba down the list a notch or two when it comes time to replace the whole thing. The new cord should be here by the end of the week, so in the meantime Ben and I are sharing the desktop system. It seems to me that the engineers COULD design a unit that would withstand the normal movements over the life of the computer, but as is the case with so many products today, they build in a market for replacement parts. What ever happened to quality engineering? Ah well, let's put that tax check to work. HA HA.

Here's Your Chance

When I decided to post this great picture, I was going to say that a picture is worth a thousand words. However, I decided that there is a bigger purpose to this post. How about suggesting a caption to go with the picture? Take the opportunity to express your opinions on the war, the president, sex, or whatever strikes you -- let's see who can come up with the best......are you up to it? Hug someone!!

And I Live With Him By Choice

As you can see from Ben's latest post, I live with a lover of "oddities." Now I think I see what he saw in me LOL. The clock he showed you is cute, but it sure is noisy when it changes from one hour to another -- not the thing to have between you and the TV set. The grape lamp is cute, but probably not something to be found in Better Homes and Gardens. The other lamps -- I think - are just plain ugly (but hey --- he likes 'em). Ben was late coming out -- the gay gene obviously was laying dormant for the longest time. While these things are odd, they really do bring a bit of whimsy to our lives.

Lazy Jerks

I don't know what is the matter with people these days. I took this picture recently in a rearby highway rest area. This is the view in the parking lot that greeted me as I opened my door. The most sad part of the whole scene is that there was a proper trash can about ten to fifteen steps from this pile of cigarette butts and baby diapers. It is a sad day when people are so lazy and careless as to dump trash in the parking lot when, with just a few steps and a little effort, they could be good citizens and keep the world a bit cleaner. SO -- whoever the heck you are who left this mess -- PLEASE take a lessen and clean up after your lazy self.

Happy Mothers Day

Here's hoping that you all enjoyed a wonderful Mothers Day. I got to spend the afternoon with Mom and most of the family. And -- praise God -- she's NOT in the hospital!!! YAY!!! God bless.

Dottie Rambo

For anyone even moderately acquainted with the gospel music industry of the past quarter century, the name Dottie Rambo will be familiar. Ms. Rambo was killed early this morning in a bus wreck as she was traveling to perform a Mother's Day concert in Texas. Her contributions to Gospel music will live on for decades, but her untimely death has dealt quite a blow to the industry. She will be missed. May she sing God's praises in His eternal presence.

I've Had It!!

I love to get emails from friends, family, acquaintances, co-workers and such. Email is a wonderful way to stay connected -- perhaps not as personal and lasting as the traditional handwritten letter, but connectivity that is essential to healthy relationships. However, within the past week or so I have received a number of emails that either smear a political candidate (both parties and all presidential contenders) or spread fear and distrust of the government (a bit of skepticism there is not a bad thing). The sad part is that when I did as little as five minutes research on the content of these negative emails, I found the content to be essentially false. Now hear this: Before sending me any emails that tell of a candidate's past, a government cover-up, or pending legislation to charge money for emails, PLEASE take the time to check it out. If these things continue to circulate unchecked and unconfirmed, we continue to sow seeds of hatred, distrust, and uncertainty in a time where what we need is unity, hope, and peace. Every email I get now that has any of the kind of garbage I have received recently gets run through SNOPES.COM and other sources, and if found to be false, gets a response including the link to my sources and a request to cease and desist from spreading unfounded information. Come on, folks, THINK before you click SEND!

It LIVES!!

I guess that between us, Ben and I must have magic hands.....now, I know where msny minds are going on that statement, but that is a subject for a different day's post. We were going to go look for a new dryer to replace the one that got thumped down the stairs (see previous posts) when a friend suggested taking the back off and checking to see if the heating unit (whatever the heck that looks like) was plugged in. Well, we took his advice and pulled off the back cover. We encountered the ever present collection of accumlated lint and a whole bunch of wires - so we jiggled all the wires a bit since they all seemed connected. Shrugging our shoulders and scratching our heads, we said, "Well, let's put it together and try it." We got the back cover on, plugged it in, and started it up. Amazingly it worked and actually is heating better than it has in over a year. Hmmm. That little jiggle saved us a bunch of money and the headache of "What do we buy?". HOORAY. Isn't it nice to hear good news now and then? Have a great Sunday and hug someone.

Friday Update

Well, we are completely out of the old apartment; now we need to dig out of the move stuff and get settled in the new place. The only casualties (other than our backs) were a plate and the dryer. This is the same dryer that our helpful neighbor took down the stairs backward -- thump, thump, bang, bang. SO -- today I was doing the wash in the apartment and carrying it wet across the hall to the laundry room to dry it. Oh joy! I think we will be dryer shopping in the next week or so - -oh boy, more money to spend. At least I won't be making the 35 mile trip each way to work for a while. I reactivated my unemployment claim, so there will be some money coming in. No I'm just tired, but I guess with no job I will have some time to rest. Isn't God good? Anyway, have a great day and hug someone!

What about Annie?

HEY!! The news media is crawling all over the Miley Cyrus photos like ants over chcoclate cake. My question is this: IF (and I say "IF") this is such a horrible thing and IF this is a case of exploitation, why isn't anyone going after the renowned photographer, Annie Leibovitz? After all, there wouldn't be any flap if there were no photos and there would be no photos if that nasty child pornographer Annie Leibowitz hadn't taken advantage of poor Miley (and apparently of her parents and "handlers"). Of course, there wouldn't be much of a flap either if someone hadn't splashed the photos all over the media. After all, Vanity Fair is hardly sitting on coffee tables in every living room in America. There wouldn't be much to "explain" to our children (God, how I hate that. Kids are not as dumb as some like to think) if the talking heads hadn't broadcast it and drawn it into national attention. Come on, folks! The girl, the photographer, the magazine, perhaps the parents -- all used questionable judgment -- okay! But it's hardly what I would call newsworthy. BUT -- if you wsnt to keep harping on it and, as some have done call it porn, go after the photographer. After all, the 15 year old celebrity is an innocent teenager (Isn't that an oxymoron?). Let's go report some real news and leave this celebrity drivel alone.

The End is in Sight

No,folks, not THAT butt LOL. However, the move is just about done. We decided to take today off from moving and finish tomorrow, leaving the clean up for Friday. Thank God that is nearly over -- about killed us! No more third floor walk ups!!!!! And -- I will have lots of time to finish up on Friday since my lovely temp employment assignment ends tomorrow!! Unless they have something else lined up -- yeah, right!-- I will be back in the ranks of the unemployed. I guess the State of Michigan can support me for a while. At least the weather is starting to get nice. That also means that I can focus on getting all the boxes unpacked and all the crap put away -- like THAT will ever happen LOL. Even though we downsized from the house less than a year ago, we still have more stuff than two people should have in an apartment. Anyone have a spare basement? Ah well, the Bible says that to everything there is a season -- I guess the moving season and the working season are both about over. That's what is happening on this wonderful Wednesday. Hug someone!

Hey, Everyone

Well, it's been a wild and crazy couple of weeks since my last post. I worked lots of overtime on my temp job that is probably ending this week. The paycheck was nice, but I am pooped. Add to the extra 30+ hours in two weeks the stress of our move and the continuing challenges of guiding a church through a transition time and you can see why I am bordering on exhaustion. The move will be finished within the next day or two. We had a neighbor (a nice one, not the idiot) help in the morning. He was good hearted, but when he decided to the dryer on the dolly down the stairs backward (Bang, bang, bang, clunk, clunk) I shuddered. It seems to be okay, but he was better hearted than organized for the move. In the afternoon, Ben had a couple of friends from work come and help with the rest of the big stuff. All that is left now is a lot of piddly little stuff. It is nice having the ground floor unit, but the move from the third floor has about done us in. Ah well, at least we are getting a really good deal on this unit -- and no more three flights of stairs -- now we come in the front door and down 5 steps. And I can take the dog out the slider and NO STAIRS. Hooray -- so we are going to relax a bit this evening and I will start again in the AM before work. Hug someone.

A Lazy Morning

Hi all! The past few days have been a blur for me. After working my 40 hours last week, I had the joy of working Saturday and Sunday. That gave me 17 hours of overtime. On top of that, I worked 10 hours Monday and -- get this -- 14 hours yesterday. It'll be a nice paycheck -- just hope I don't need to spend it on doctors when I collapse. Now, for the rest of the week, they have me working 1PM to 10PM. At least the drive to and from will be a great improvement from the morning and evening rush. I left a picture of myself out so that the dog will recognize me when I do come home. LOL. Hug someone!

A Meme

Lemuel tagged me for this, so here it goes.
As usual there are rules and they are:
1. The rules of the game get posted at the beginning.
2. Each player answers the questions about themselves.
3. At the end of the post, the player then tags 5 people and posts their names, then goes to their blogs and leaves them a comment, letting them know they’ve been tagged and asking them to read your blog.
1) What was I doing 10 yrs ago?
On 11. April 1998, I was pastoring a church in Springfield, IL and was considering a change in location. My five years there had been semi-productive but God was knocking at the door to let me know it was time to move on to a new call which actually came a year later.

2) What are 5 things on my to-do list for today (not in any particular order):
1. Pay bills
2. Play Sudoku on line
3. Fix dinner
4. Walk the dog
5. Get a good night’s sleep

3) Snacks I enjoy:
1. chips – prefer Ruffles
2. Chocolate
3. pretzels
4. Bread and butter – the cheap white bread
5. pastries(!)

4) Things I would do if I were a billionaire:
1. pay off all my debts
2. set aside enough savings that I could quit my job and live comfortably for the rest of my years
3. Endow a few churches I know of.
4. Make sure my family is provided for.
5. TRAVEL

5) Three of my bad habits:
1. I’m a bit of a slob.
2. Like to sit around and waste time
3. Overeating.

6) 5 places I have lived: (in no order whatsoever…)
1. Florida – several locations
2. Michigan - around
3. Springfield IL
4. Augusta, GA
5. On the road in a travel trailer

7) 5 jobs I have had:
1. Pastor
2. Computer Operator
3. Bank Branch Manager
4. Shoe Salesman
5. Help Desk Agent

5 bloggers that I wanna know more about:
JUST FIVE? If you read this and want to do it, go for it.

It Takes All Kinds

Well, just when we think people couldn't get any more rude or stupid, we are proven wrong. This evening, since the weather was nice (at least by Michigan standards), Ben and I went for a walk. Our walk was through the local cemetery -- it's not as odd as you may think. Anyway, as we were headed back to the car, a car passed by and I guess I gave it a second look. It looked a lot like the car of a local relative and I wanted to make sure it was or wasn't. It wasn't, and we went on to the car. As we were about to get in, the car in question came by after having to loop around or make a U turn. The guy -- a real winner -- slowed down, opened the window, and said, "You got a staring problem?" I wisely ignored him and he == along with the family (yes, this idiot has apparently figured out how to reproduce -- poor kids)-- drove on their merry way. Now, he wasn't worth a second look and I would surely hesitate to give a man with a family a lingering look. I wonder why he's so insecure. I wonder what kind of example he is setting for his kids. I mused as we drove out of the cemetery, "All of these nice people below ground and yet this idiot is above ground -- how unfair." Ah, stupidity reigns.

Home Again

Hi everyone! I just got back from a few days in south Florida. It's wonderful to be home, but what a horrible change. I left a sunshine paradise where it was clear and warm, and landed in a cool, damp, foggy mess. While Michigan is home for now, Ben and I are talking about looking for warmer climes -- enough of winter and record unemployment. I kidded that if we are going to be unemployed and poor, it will be nicer to do it in the Florida sun than in the Michigan mess. It won't happen real soon, but it's on the drawing board. Anyway, I was there for the 20th anniversary of the church I helped found in Fort Myers. I was super to see what has evolved from that small group. Starting with 22, they are now closer to 200 people, and they own a building on one of the main roads in town. It was wonderful to see old friends -- some of those original 22 are still there. There were some bittersweet moments as we talked about some who are now deceased, but we honored them as well. It was an extremely positive event for me. There are days when I wonder if I help to make any difference in the world, and this weekend showed that my labors of 20 years ago are reaping benefits and rewards for that community.

Well, now I'm back and have to go to work tomorrow morning -- yuck! It will be wonderful to cuddle and more with that special someone (you know who I mean!!). Next weekend I'm off to Indiana for a meeting, but between now and then I hope to make up for being gone for several days. So there may not be many posts here in the days ahead. Stay well and hug someone -- I'm going too!!!

Have a Blessed Easter

Here's wishing you and yours all the joy and blessing of the Resurrection. Happy Easter! After church activities tomorrow (Ben goes for a 6:30AM vigil service and the regular 10 AM; I go for a breakfast at 9:30 and service at 11) we head to my brother's house abhout an hour away to celebrate with the family. It's a busy busy weekend, and by Monday neither of us will want to go to work -- but work beckons. Give someone a big hug.

NEW JOB

Thanks to all of you who have been sending good thoughts my direction. The much discussed short term temp assignment that has been possible, then not, then on, then off, is definitely ON! I start tomorrow at 8:30 AM (That means driving toward Detroit at rush, but we do what we have to do). The money will be nice, although the job is only slated for 4-6 weeks. Hopefully by then, I will be called back to the last place and be set for a while. If not, unemployment will kick back in. SO -- tomorrow I call to document the past two weeks of being unemployed and begin this new adventure. It should be a "blast". We shall see.

Happy St. Patricks Day

Hope this helps to make your celebration more fun. Thanks to q-logik for the pic. The shamrock gets picked at the link. Enjoy if it is your thing. Hug someone and celebrate responsibly.

A Glimmer of Light?

Well, I got a call this morning to tell me that the temp job that has been on the table, then off, is back on the table. I am supposed to have a phone interview tomorrow morning to see about it. It is scheduled for two months at pretty decent money, but I'm still not holding my breath. I haven't got the email confirming the interview from the temp agency. But at least it is again on the radar. This is a good thing - -I think. Meanwhile, there's unemployment. It's not much, but it's better than nothing; also slightly better than minimum wage. Ah, the joys of being out of a job. ICK.

Kudos

I just saw a news story in which the African American mayor of Philadelphia has vowed to continue his support for Hilary Clinton in her bid for the presidency despite the growing support for Barack Obama. The thing that sticks out for me in this story is that the Mayor appears to be a man of conviction unlike so many who have gone scurrying after whoever is leading in polls and delegates. Those who support Mrs. Clinton when she is favored and then switch their support to Mr. Obama when he is ahead are sending the signal that their support has nothing to do with issues or positions but instead has to do with positioning themselves to be in the "favor" of whomever they think might be a winner. I am so sick of the political maneuvering and rhetoric. It is refreshing to see someone sticking to a position! My candidate of choice (John Edwards) withdrew from the race some time back, but if he re-entered the race today, I would there to support him. The office of the presidency of the United States is too important to base its support on the whims of polls and the words of what is rapidly becoming a "rabid" press corps. The media people see a slight upswing in someone's numbers and they effectively "anoint" that one as the winner when there are still lots of delegates in contention. I know that part of their job is to boost circulation and viewer ratings, but the greater part of their job should be responsible journalism -- they should be reporting the news, not trying to steer its outcome. Whoever the Democratic Party nominates (most likely Sen. Clinton or Sen. Obama) is the candidate I will support. I am just thrilled to see that at least one political office holder (the mayor of Philadelphia) is standing by his candidate of choice. If i lived in his city, this action would go a long way toward securing my vote. And that is the way I see it!!

Interesting Easter Information

I received the following information by email today and thought I'd share it with all of you. It is amazing!!!

Easter this year is: Sunday March 23 2008
As you may know Easter is always the 1st Sunday after the 1st full moon after the Spring Equinox (which is March 20).
This dating of Easter is based on the lunar calendar that Hebrew people used to identify Passover which is why it moves around on our Roman calendar.
Found out a couple of things you might be interested in!
Based on the above Easter can actually be one day earlier (March 22) but that is pretty rare This year is the earliest Easter any of us will ever see the rest of our lives! And only the most elderly of our population have ever seen it this early (95 years old or above!). And none of us have ever or will ever see it a day earlier! Here are the facts:

The next time Easter will be this early (March 23) will be the year 2228 (220 years from now). The last time it was this early was 1913 (so if you're 95 or older you are the only ones that were around for that!). The next time it will be a day earlier March 22 will be in the year 2285 (277 years from now). The last time it was on March 22 was 1818. So no one alive today has or will ever see it any earlier than this year!

Spring Forward!!

Don't forget to SPRING FORWARD before you go to bed tomorrow night! If you forget, you will be late for church!

And the Boredom Continues

Well, here it is -- one week since my temp job that lasted 13 months came to a sudden stop and I joined the ranks of "the victims of outsourcing". The "promised" temp assignment that would bridge the gap has not materialized. When I called, I was told it was in the "approval" stage, which to me means I was politely told that it wasn't going to happen. I did finally get the laundry put away, and the kitchen is in a little bettr order. I have been doing some church stuff, although I have probably wasted more time in the past week than I could believe possible. The one good (?) thing that is coming out of this experience is a deeper empathy with others in this and worse situations. What I really want is a job -- not just for the money, though that is a motivator. I want the structure and the feeling of being useful to someone. Ben has been so patient with me -- he has been where I am. At least he is working and I have the part time church gig. And there will be unemployment. I wonder if the "promised" call back to the previous employer will come in the "promised" one to two months. I wonder how we will pay the rent this month. I wonder about a lot of stuff, but I also find myself strangely calm. Even though the finances and stuff cross my mind, at this point I am not stressing or obsessing about the bills. Somehow, God will help sort it all out. I hope that happens soon! So, here I sit playing online, playing computer games, watching TV, and generally goofing off. I suppose next week will encourage me to go pound the pavement seeking employment. The reality is that with winter weather, I am not in a huge hurry to go anywhere. Ah well, spring is coming -- wonder what the season of "new life" will bring. More updates as they become available. Hug someone!!

Between Jobs

Well, I am now officially unemployed. As I said in my last post, my temp job ended last Friday. The other potential temp assignment hangs by a thread at the moment. They already filled the approved spots and are trying to add one to accomodate me. It's in the "approval" stage which basically means sit and wait. I applied for Unemployment and contacted my previous temp agency to reactivate my file. I have scored "Career Builder" and done some laundry. The reality is that I feel as though I am in "Free fall." While I am still busy with the church gig, it will not support me. I begin to wonder what's next. I am falling into the "I can do that tomorrow" mindset. The clean laundry is laying on the dining room table; at the moment I am unshaved, etc. At least I didn't have to commute through the snow this morning. I really need to find something to do to give myself the motivation to "DO" something. One thing that this experience will do is to give me an insight into the lives of some of my congregants. This is the first tim ein four years that I have not had a guaranteed income. Ah, life sucks. I am still trying to define my feelings about where I find myself today. Hopeless? Worthless? On the verge of some great opportunity? I don't know, but I don't like it. I guess I will figure out what to do next soon -- I hope.